From the moment we become aware, women are taught how to be. We are limited by the world around us, a world that is hostile to the wild woman that lives inside of us. We are told to smooth the edges, hide the seams, follow the rules. Be good girls, act like a lady, age gracefully. This helps to dissipate the threat from the wild woman. She's dangerous, because she threatens the social fabric of the patriarchy.
“I was wild and tame and pulled into shreds and crushed into being all at once.” Maggie Stiefvater
Even the "rule breakers" police us from their own limited constructs. "Conform to our version of non-conformity! You're not non-conforming properly!"
“Some days I am more wolf than woman, and I am still learning how to stop apologizing for my wild.” Nikita Gill
We are sent an endless stream of contradictory messages that reinforce the lie that we are not good enough no matter what we choose. The drip, drip, drip wears away at that wild woman, taming her into submission.
Here's a secret, the world may construct the cage, but we lock ourselves inside and hide the key.
This wild woman has had enough. She's setting herself free.
Every aspect of how I live my life and move through the world belongs to me. I don't owe anyone an excuse or an explanation. I don't owe anything at all. I am tired of being policed. In fact, I soundly reject it. I am also tired of policing. It's not my place to tell other people what to think, do, say, wear, feel, believe. It's not my place to tell other people what to think about me. If the world finds me three notches too loud and five notches too sparkly, that's a judgment. It is only truth if I accept it.
"You have seen my descent, now watch my rising." Rumi
My wild woman is free. She's unfettered. She will do as she pleases and she does not care if it pleases you. She will wear what she pleases, think what she pleases, and say what she pleases. She will vote as she pleases, love whom she pleases, and live as she pleases. She will age as she pleases. She does not require your approval.
"I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human." Oriah Mountain Dreamer